Can guys and girls be just friends?
1) YES! Totally
2) Yes, but, there are rules to follow
3) Eh, yes, but only if the friendship is an established one
4) As long as one/both has a significant other
5) Sure, just not on my watch
6) Never, just not possible, it always goes wrong
7) ____________________________
1) YES! Totally
2) Yes, but, there are rules to follow
3) Eh, yes, but only if the friendship is an established one
4) As long as one/both has a significant other
5) Sure, just not on my watch
6) Never, just not possible, it always goes wrong
7) ____________________________
they can ABAOLUTELY be friends!
ReplyDeletehmmm i had to think a little about this one...but i say #2...
ReplyDeleteI think absolutely yes because I have some great male friends. Some have been past lovers and some friends the entire time. I think you have to have an understanding going in about boundaries that work for both of you.
ReplyDeleteOne of my best friends is a guy :) I think that, because of the closeness of the friendship, and the whole opposite-sex thing, sometimes friends allow themselves to 'make a move' on one another, and then things get all messy! If you're going to be friends, just be friends. BUT-- some of the best relationships come from friendships! Like Harry and Sally (love that movie)!!
ReplyDeleteI think what it comes down to, like most things-- depends on the who, and the circumstances... but it is possible!
I used to think yes definitely. But now I am thinking #3!!
ReplyDeleteI had many a male friends and a some point either I or they liked each other. There definitely needs to be boundaries!
Love this one!! 2) Yes, but, there are rules to follow
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Great post as always! I'll go for#2!
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Great question!! I definitely have some guys that are just friends. Probably some of the best friends I have. But I've also met guys who absolutely CANNOT handle being "just friends" so I guess it depends on the guy?
ReplyDeleteSome of my best friends have been guys. But I've also been in situations where I think I have found a good friend that's a guy but when they don't get more from me they want nothing to do with me. Sooo I guess it depends on the guy, and the situation.
ReplyDeleteyes, i have plenty of male friends. most of them were male for most of my life. however, two of them were complicated friendships. that is all i will say.
ReplyDeletei think it depends. for me, when i was single, i had guy friends, good guy friends, but i knew at one point or another, they had more than just "friendship" feelings towards me... as long as they kept it to themselves, we were fine. some didn't, and it became very awkward... i don't know that there's a clear cut answer on that one! great question and GREAT movie scene!!! ;)
ReplyDelete#1 YES!!! totally! i don't see why not. yea there are those times one person (more likely the boy) falls for the other but if they can get pass that then true friendship can occur. at least that's what i've experienced.
ReplyDeleteI'm gonna say its a mix between 1 & 2. Even if its an established relationship there has to be some rules...and p.s. when harry met sally is my favorite movie by far! love it! :)
ReplyDeleteI think absolutely yes! I've had some great guy friends. At times when I wasn't dating anyone, it was fun to have guys around, even if just to hear theire crazy perspective on things.
ReplyDelete1...of course they can! Just because some girls believe that a guy getting close to them must obvously mean they want something more...that's total crap! Guys make better friends than females if i'm honest...they're more loyal, more honest, funnier...some of the best friends i have are guys.
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ReplyDeleteOkay, I just had something really long and profound (haha) written, but my computer turned off! So, I will quickly say YES! but with some rules attached. :)
ReplyDeleteI'm torn on this one. S and I differ big time on this. He says one will ALWAYS have a thing for the others - even if subconsciously. I say yes...but think there are rules/limits to go by...especially if S' theory is true. You never want it to go outside the bounds of friendship...unless of course you want it to go outside the bounds of friendship.
ReplyDeleteno idea. the only guy friends i've had are my boyfriends or friends of my boyfriends so those don't really count.
ReplyDeletei think they always can... but i do think that MOST of the time.. one or the other has liked the other person. maybe they havent the whole time..maybe they dont currently but usually at one point there were feelings there. one of my all time best friends is a guy and at one point in our 10 year relationship we both have liked the other one. maybe it was just the wrong time for that love story so you just decided on being friends which is just as good! i think there are qualities in all of my guy friends that i like, hence why they are my friends! ah ok enough of my novel. you always do that to me, you know! hehe love you hope you're having a wonderful week!! :)xoxoxo
ReplyDeletedude!!!!! such a good question!!! as long as one does not want to get into the other's pants!!! a c k! this one is so tricky!!!! especially if you find the other one attractive or funny. eke. it is kind of dangerous. EKE!
ReplyDeleteLove this post! #2 works for me!
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Absolutely yes! We're all just people, man. Lets hold hands now.
ReplyDeletei would have to go with #2!
ReplyDeleteYes, indeed. Yeah, there may be some underlying sexual tension in some male/female friendships, but who cares? I grew up with only brothers so I love having close guy friends.
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ReplyDeleteI'd have to say 6!...I haven't met guy/girl friends that could keep it simple and platonic. Something always gets in the way!
YES no1!
ReplyDeleteMy bff is a guy...since college dayz!
Anyway, I think I'm from Planet Pluto! hee*
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guys and girls can be friends; I'm friends with probably more guys than girls.
ReplyDeleteHowever: rules must be observed, and boundaries must be in place, or the friendship must be around for a damn long time.
Just saying.
I definitely believe they can be friends, but it always seems to become a little messy when one or the other has/gets a significant other. The damn jealousy thing sets in...which is ridiculous!
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ReplyDeletemy feeling is only if its pre-established or you're with a significant other. otherwise there's always a time of awkwardness. if you can get past that phase though, you can be friends for life!
ReplyDeleteI think they can but you have to be careful once married or in a relationship! it is a fine line to travel on! Hope all is well :)
ReplyDeleteI'm gonna go with 2.
ReplyDeleteYes... they can be friends, but there will always be SOME attraction! But I think its the same between girls, too!
ReplyDeleteYes, I agree with #2.
ReplyDeleteI vote #2. I have plenty of male friends. I've just never blown any of them. :)
ReplyDelete...#3?
ReplyDeleteyes TOTALLY
ReplyDelete#3, but every situation is a different one. Ugggg, so confusing!!
ReplyDeleteYes ...but there must be grounds established!
ReplyDelete{I thought I was just friends with my husband ...until we realized there was so much more} lol. So I guess not. actually. !!! hahah
Yes, but with rules established WAY up front. If you get past that, it usually gets messy...at least in my experience.
ReplyDeleteSuch great comments above--what a thought-provoking post...and such a great picture to go with it!
I do, but only because I've been friends with them since I was 6 years old. Other men that I've been friends with as I've gotten older have ended up falling in love with me and I have had to break their hearts. In the end I will go with choice #3! :)
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ReplyDeleteI believe so, most of my good friends are male.
ReplyDelete#2 most definitely!
ReplyDeletehmmm...i have to say 2/3.
ReplyDeletethere are rules, and the friendship does need to be established. i also think that truly platonic, honest and healthy friendships between men and women are rare, but they do happen!
I would love to say #1, but it seems more often than not some sort of a crush develops for one or both parties. And, being in a relationship doesn't always stop a crush.
ReplyDeleteI was told once that relationships work because of choices, and a smart choice is not to put oneself in a potentially "dangerous" situation.
And, I've noticed that when things are not perfect at home, people seek understanding and a sympathetic ear with their opposite sex friends. I've seen many "crushes" develop at this stage.
Wow....sorry to take up so much space here! This topic has come up a lot recently, so it struck a cord. :)
Love your blog!! Lots of thought provoking stuff here!
I just watched When Harry Met Sally, how appropriate. I think yes, men and women can be friends, BUT, there will always be some sexual thoughts/tension, or a crush on at least one side.
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