I LOVE those heels!
Your hair looks absolutely AMAZING!
YOU are gorgeous, stunning, beautiful
You are in such GREAT shape!
Only YOU could pull off that look!
You are an UNBELIEVABLE cook!
Don't you just love to tell someone something great about them?! I do. I have to do it. Its my gut, instinct reaction to shower someone with praise. I know we all put thought, time, and effort into what we do. Letting someone know their efforts have not gone unnoticed is not only sweet, but also the right thing to do. Obviously, genuine praise. I won't say something I am not feeling. Honesty is, seriously, always, the best policy, Friends. Having something come back to bite you in the caboose later can not be a fun thing. Not to mention the tragedy of looking like fibber. Not cool.
The receiving end of a compliment is not always so easy for people. So many of us tend to feel awkward, nervous, worrying we'll seem like braggers, or developing inflating heads, that can't fit through the door.Oh, what? this old thing?Psh! Me? No way! Look at YOU! Yeah, right! Anyone can do it! You would have done it WAY better then me. No I don't! I look like I just rolled out of bed! {so on, and so forth}.
Your hair looks absolutely AMAZING!
YOU are gorgeous, stunning, beautiful
You are in such GREAT shape!
Only YOU could pull off that look!
You are an UNBELIEVABLE cook!
Don't you just love to tell someone something great about them?! I do. I have to do it. Its my gut, instinct reaction to shower someone with praise. I know we all put thought, time, and effort into what we do. Letting someone know their efforts have not gone unnoticed is not only sweet, but also the right thing to do. Obviously, genuine praise. I won't say something I am not feeling. Honesty is, seriously, always, the best policy, Friends. Having something come back to bite you in the caboose later can not be a fun thing. Not to mention the tragedy of looking like fibber. Not cool.
The receiving end of a compliment is not always so easy for people. So many of us tend to feel awkward, nervous, worrying we'll seem like braggers, or developing inflating heads, that can't fit through the door.Oh, what? this old thing?Psh! Me? No way! Look at YOU! Yeah, right! Anyone can do it! You would have done it WAY better then me. No I don't! I look like I just rolled out of bed! {so on, and so forth}.
How do you handle a compliment?
Do you reflect a compliment back, completely deflect the compliment, or both?
or
Can you graciously accept, and say Thank You.
or
Can you graciously accept, and say Thank You.
I tend to say, "Oh thank you! I love your ___" It's so much easier to receive a compliment when you've got one to dish out.
ReplyDeleteGreat post girlie! This is the best feeling ever to receive & give a compliment to others. When i'm on the receiving end: i ALWAYS say thank you :) When giving: it ALWAYS comes from my heart and is true.
ReplyDeleteahhh - i usually blush and say thanks, but Im not, haha.... xxxooo
ReplyDeleteI blush all the way to my ears and say thank you. I am not use to compliments but I love giving them to others.
ReplyDeletei love dishing them out when i am at a party and barely know folks. i get super uber nervous around folks i don't know! i need to work on learning how to take them.
ReplyDeleteI'm so happy you posted about this! I am like you- always giving compliments! But when it comes time to receive them, I feel SO awkward! I always say thank you, but it is hard to hear sometimes for some reason.
ReplyDeleteHappy Friday :) XO
haha! love this post..and how you always graciously & genuinely compliment everyone! (: love! xx
ReplyDeleteI usually say oh thanks! :)
ReplyDeleteI first have to say that I love giving compliments...sometimes it just pops out before i realize but it is always heartfelt! I also love it when those people take it to heart. On the other hand i hate to admit it but i have a really hard time taking compliments! I often deflect them or just plain turn them down. I know how horrible that is and it is something i have been working on! Even if I just say thank you! It's a hard habit to break though!
ReplyDeleteI love love love making people feel good about themselves! Personally, I'm a deflecter by nature but am learning to graciously accept.
ReplyDeleteYOU are so good at compliment, Iva! :) I think compliments just do the thing to perk someone's day up!
ReplyDeleteI usually say thank you and graciously accept a compliment if I share the sentiments. haha. but otherwise i'm an awkward deflector!
I usually say "thank you, but...." I know that's terrible, but I have always had a hard time accepting compliments - especially from people I don't know!
ReplyDeleteWhen I am complimented I always say, "Thank you." And then promptly turn beet red.
ReplyDeleteIt is always easier to believe all the negative stuff than the positive.
I try my best offer compliments because I know how much we all need to hear them. It takes something like 7-10 positive things to counter 1 negative comment. On that note:
Iva, you have beautiful blog and I love reading everything you post! I hope your Friday is wonderful as you are.
I say thank you but usually let out a self deprecating guffaw at the same time.
ReplyDeleteHi I just needed to say that I <3 you! (: xx
ReplyDeleteWonderful darling! When I was younger, I just said "Thank you, I know", but now, I say thank you, and I give some compliment!
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I give them out (too many) LOL. But I take them pretty well too, not gonna lie. Umm I really want to write more but I'm taking this offline! IMEM <3
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OMG. Ok, see...this is why I should be banned from commenting your posts. BANNED!
This is a great question...I can NOT take a compliment...I really have to work on it, it's so awkward for the other person!
ReplyDeleteaw, great post. i love getting compliments but i hate knowing how to react to them. sometimes i feel awkward especially in front of other people and i'm always the one who's like yea right you havent seen me without make up on!! or something like that haha but i love love love to give out compliments!! you're beautiful iva! love u!
ReplyDeletei think i am more comfortable giving compliments than receiving them! even tho it is awkward to receive them, it feels good.
ReplyDeleteand you are a VERY complimentary person, in all senses of the word. ;)
compliments are hard. i find if it's a person i know i just shrug them off (rude). if it's someone i don't know i usually say thank you very clearly and say something nice back to them.
ReplyDeleteAccept and say thank you. But some of the compliments I get from friends are, you are a pig, you look fat... the latter is my favorite, since my goal is to gain weight. And I do say thank you : )
ReplyDeleteThanks for stopping by my blog and saying hello!
ReplyDeleteAs for your post, I'm on the same page as far as honesty is concerned. And I try, try, try to accept compliments with grace, as much as I can. It's not always easy, though...
I almost always say thank you and then offer them a compliment.
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Ok, I un-banned myself because I can't stay away from youuuuu. Gosh I hope you're feeling better. I will deliver you some soup. Or pay someone too...that doesnt count as shopping!
ReplyDeleteHere's some compliments for YOU-
You are the bestest friend ever and are always there for me no matter how busy are with your FULLTIME job, 2 gorgeous children and great hubby. You make me laugh, you handle business, you chill me out when I want to be a fiesty latina, you are always honest yet always kind AND you're model material.
Ok. TAKE IT.
Hey, thanks very much for stopping by my blog!
ReplyDeleteI'm rotten at accepting compliments, as is everyone to which I'm related. We're masters at deflection, which can lead to some hilarious exchanges, but I do every once in a while try to remember to just say "Thank you". This is a good reminder!
I used to deflect every compliment I got, but after talks with my mom, I realized that I shouldn't. Now I graciously say "thank you" even if I disagree with the compliment. LOL And of course, I try to only give genuine compliments.
ReplyDeleteI hope you have a really great weekend, lady! You deserve it!
I usually say thank you and compliment back. :)
ReplyDeleteThanks for stopping by my blog and have a great weekend!!
Great post, and it is interesting how so few people seem able to accept a compliment. Why are we all so hard on ourselves all the time? I always just say, "thanks" and leave it at that. I feel like if I were to return the compliment it would seem insincere, but I do try to compliment people whenever a thought pops in my head about something positive about them.
ReplyDeleteThanks for stopping by my blog.
a Thank You is always necessary ...then the blushing comes after. We tend to not think what others are saying about us is true so we think they must be lying ...but really, that's what THEY see ...and you have to respect that. Great post! Happy Weekend!
ReplyDeleteI always say thank you when someone makes a compliment. I've noticed here in the Netherlands, when I compliment someone's purse, hair, or clothes, they always look at me like I'm crazy, and are unsure what to say. I'm not sure if it's a cultural thing or not, but they just don't know how to react when I make a compliment! Eventually they will mutter "thanks..." and then act like nothing happened. Strange, right?!
ReplyDeletewow this is such a wonderful post......actually when someone gives a compliment, i say thanq automatically without my knowledge and then blush and give a beutiful smile :))
ReplyDeleteI'm the same way, I love giving compliments and love getting them. I think I handle them well, except with my recent change in hair color. Everyone loved it but I could only say "I don't like it!" instead of just accepting that others thought it looked good and thanking them. Not my most graceful moment :)
ReplyDeleteI would say thank you, blush, then later question whether they meant it and if there was a hidden meaning behind it.
ReplyDeleteSilly really. I'd like to be able to take things at face value a bit more.
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I say thanks...say something nice about them...and then hope they don't bug me anymore hahaha
ReplyDeletehmmm, i usually acknowledge the person's kindness and say "thank you." if it's a genuine compliment, i really appreciate it but if i feel it's flattery...well, let's just say it's not so much appreciated.
ReplyDeletehope you're having a good weekend:)
I used to be the type that could not take compliments until a friend of mine told me I was robbing her of a blessing and to be gracious and reaffirm compliment in my head to myself until I started to believe it and now I LOVE receiving compliments! I am like you where I shower people w/ them. In fact back in high school i got the A.S.B. award for most likely to tell you i liked your writing :D
ReplyDeleteIt's so true....I refuse compliments immediately....Wish I could just say thank you and accept it...I guess it's a bad habit what I have to stop. Thanks for reminding me, much love: Evi
ReplyDeleteI get embarrassed and rush a 'thanks' out before changing the subject...
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This has only started to happen that last 3 years.. but ive developed a deep deep red and very hot blush that spreads over my face in 2 seconds!!
ReplyDeleteI try to remember to just say "Thank You" and smile.
ReplyDeleteI also love going around giving praise to others when they accomplish something or get a nice haircut.
goodness. this is something i struggle with. i have to make myself smile and say "thank you", otherwise i'll tell them how i think this or that is wrong with me...i get nervous and embarrassed. great question!
ReplyDeleteI'm pretty terrible at it. I'm not going to lie. Sometimes it works out ok, but if a person takes me by surprise, I usually fumble...
ReplyDeleteI know I blush at compliments. My sixth grade teacher once told us that it is an insult to the person giving the compliment if you don't accept it graciously. I try to say, "Thank you. That is really sweet of you to say."
ReplyDeleteCompliments are my fave. I used to be kind of stingy about giving compliments but now when I see something to compliment on, I say it out loud so that person can have a little boost to their day.
ReplyDeleteI also try to accept compliments graciously only because I like when other people do that.
I used to be the girl who pushed compliments away or just made fun of myself more (I have a very self-deprecating sense of humor based on the fact that I vow never to take myself too seriously.) But I grew up, and really became a woman, the day I accepted a compliment graciously and simply said, "Thank you. That's very kind of you to say."
ReplyDeleteStill a work in progress!
sometimes i can take a compliment well and then other times i take them horribly.
ReplyDeleteonce a girl said "hey let me see that pretty dress!" and I turned and did this weird half curtsy thing and made probably the weirdest face imaginable.
This post is too true! I love giving people (genuine) compliments but I definitely CANNOT take one! Usually I just say oh thanks and try and change the subject. I never return a compliment for the sake of returning a compliment because I think that usually comes off as fake...
ReplyDeleteI dish them out like crazy, but do have a hard time being on the other end.....I get really hot in the face if it is a physical compliment! I can totally handle clothing or cooking ones though...ha!
ReplyDeleteI am usually giving compliments when I notice good things. I like making people smile and feel good about their work or the way they present themselves. I do a lot of work myself, so I know if feels good when someone takes the time to notice it and make the effort to say something nice. I always say thank you :)
ReplyDeletegreat post! definitely something i need to get better at!
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