Tuesday, May 12, 2009
Balancing Act of Yes and No
I have a problem. Ok. Here it goes: I can't say 'no'. An example of my extreme yesing would be {Hey, Iva, do you mind chewing this piece of glass for me, I'm not going to be able to get to it?} Sure thing, right away! Ok, well, I've never been asked to chew glass, but you get the picture.It's not like I actually want to be doing what I am being asked either. I just have an aversion to the simple two letter word that bares so much weight: no. I know I'm not alone, so many of us fall into the trap of taking on responsibilities that aren't ours because we feel guilty if we say 'no'. What's wrong with being honest and politely saying "no, I am sorry, I have a lot on my plate right now"? I think we should start practicing our way to a meaningful "no". Beginning with baby steps. How about a polite 'no' either to the laundry, making dinner, or doing the dishes tonight? Although, that might leave us with smelly, sweaty, dirty clothes, hungry, and with science projects on the dishes the next morning to wake up to, so that's not such a good idea.I also wouldn't recommend with saying 'no' to going into work tomorrow either. Wow. This is a dilemma. Where should we begin? Something will suffer somewhere. I'll just stick to my yeses.
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I'm guilty of this too. It's silly because all it leads to is me getting stressed out.
ReplyDeleteI know exactly what you mean. The problem is this: everyone else has no problem saying no!
ReplyDeleteI feel like I'm the only one who always gives in...
Thank you Mrs. C!It is so silly!
ReplyDeleteThank you, Allison, I feel that way too!
have less and less problem of saying " NO " !!! of course I use different words for it or " no words @ all " but I know when I m asked to do 2 much , it's just 2 much !!! so that person may not like me anymore but so what ?? if that person cared about me , he or she wouldn't ask me for " The Favor " on the first place !!!!
ReplyDeleteI am sooooo guilty of this. My sister and I were just talking about this tonight. We were cleaning out old junk and realized that half of it came to her house because neither of us can say no when asked if we would want it.
ReplyDeleteBTW... thanks so much for the help and advice. I truly appreciate it.
Thank you Angela Darling....and no worries, you're welcome! :0)
ReplyDeletei stink at saying no as well... but i am getting better. as i get better tho, i feel like i piss more people off. hmm... haha anyways! check my blog girl, i gave you a little award for your cute cute blog :)
ReplyDeleteI am guilty of doing the same thing. I hope I am getting better at saying no but it's still a work in progress, just know you are not alone. We all do it!
ReplyDeleteUgh, I have the same problem. I think it's the people-pleasing people who have the hardest time saying no and drawing boundaries. I've started saying no to things that take away any personal time I've set aside for myself, because if I lose that I end up being super pissy at people, and no good can come of that. Try that baby step and lemme know how it works out for you.
ReplyDeleteAnd I am loving reading your blog! :)